When I started my “31 things” project in January I wrote
that it was a way to hold myself accountable for living the life of the person
I want to be at this stage in my life.
I wanted to do some grownup things like sharpen my knives
and buy in bulk while upping my credibility as a true Cincinnatian by finally
stepping foot inside the Krohn Conservatory.
I wanted to stretch myself to accomplish some of the life goals I may
have otherwise put off for another decade like running a half marathon and
joining Toastmasters. At the same time,
I wanted to improve my own well-being by studying yoga and learning how to
“loosen up.” Finally, I wanted to do
things that would enrich my social life like joining a book club.
Alone, none of these things are life changing, but together
they represent my attempt to live
intentionally.
Now, I’ve never watched Oprah and I’m not one to read a lot
of self-help books (unless Lean In counts
as a self-help book, because I did read that one), so maybe there are better
ways to approach this, but here is my general strategy for “living
intentionally”.
Step one: Decide how you want your life to look and
feel. Notice that the verb is decide, not imagine. Because there are
lots of ways this could turn out. Tradition
and other social expectations might trick you into seeing one future, but there
are many. Pick the one that looks and
feels the best for you.
And don’t worry about making the wrong decision because you
can always make a course correction. Unless
you’re 31 years old and realize that you probably should have gone to med school. Because that ship has sailed.
Step two: List the things you need to add and subtract
in order to live the life you’ve chosen.
Subtraction is just as important as addition. For me, eliminating the things that weren’t
serving a purpose (Diet Coke) or that weren’t otherwise fulfilling (cable TV)
made room for new things that I didn’t know I needed (H2O) or wanted (evenings
spent listening to Johnny Cash albums).
Step three: Do it.
Don’t know what else to say about this one, except that
coffee helps. Turns out that water helps
too, but I didn’t realize that until I gave up Diet Coke. Carbs help.
Step four: Track
it. Measure it. Talk about it. I’m 81.45% of the way towards meeting the
goals I set for myself this year. Unless
you’re a bona fide nerd like me you don’t have to use Excel charts and
conditional formatting, but at least check in on your progress.
There is no finish line because this is a process.
When you think you’re close to being done, celebrate with a few beers
and then start over at Step #1.
Although Eminem’s “Lose Yourself” is one of my favorite songs, I have to
disagree with his fundamental point. It’s
not true that you only get one shot, one opportunity to blow. Every day is an opportunity.
Now, it’s 11:30 AM and I’m still in my sweatpants so you
might say I’m not exactly practicing what I’m preaching here, but I hope I made
my general point.
Now it’s time to put
on some pants and get outside because the days are short and this year is
flying by.
-K.
HOLY COW, my friends from New Mexico TFA might realize more quickly than I did that I just listed the basic steps in a PDSA. Although they’re a little out of order, this only goes to show that I’ve never quite gotten the “systems approach” out of my system.
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